Frequently Asked Questions

What is Love & Logic?

Love and Logic is a philosophy of raising and teaching children which allows adults to be happier, more empowered, and more skilled in their interactions with children. Love allows children to grow through their mistakes. Logic allows children to live with the consequences of their choices. Love and Logic is a way of working with children that puts parents and teachers back in control, teaches children to be responsible, and prepares young people to live in the real world, with its many choices and consequences.

When is the right time to take the workshop?

It's never too late or too early to take the Becoming a Love and Logic Parent workshop. Many parents take the workshop more than once because their issues change as their children grow. At about the age of eight or nine months we can begin using the techniques of Love and Logic and see our children respond. If you begin when your children are teenagers, it may take a little while for results to show up, but they will.

Will Love and Logic work if only one parent is using it?

It's always best if both parents are on the same page with their parenting techniques and support each other. We all have our own family of origin and the differences in styles can cause stress between the parents and confusion for the children. Most of the workshop locations offer childcare on site to help mom and dad both come to the class.

If only one parent can come to the workshop, it's helpful if the other listens to some Love and Logic tapes to get the idea of what their spouse is trying to do. Change isn't easy for any of us, and it's impossible to get someone else to change when they don't want to. Many of the Love Logic materials contain a healthy dose of humor to help us lighten up and laugh at ourselves a bit.

Why do we need parenting classes? Our parents didn't have them and they got through it?

The world has changed significantly in just one generation. We spend more time with our kids now and they do less for themselves. We're not comfortable having our kids outside unsupervised. And yet, when they become teenagers, away they go with their friends.

More parents are working now and more kids are going to daycare facilities and preschools. Kids have more rights and they aren't afraid of their parents and teachers. All the media puts a lot of pressure on kids to grow up faster. There are a million distractions everywhere.

Maybe Love and Logic can't change the world, but it can change the way things go at our homes and how our kids look at the world. It can make parenting more enjoyable and cut down on the amount of battles we have with our kids.